# 6 The Baby Mama Virus
# 6 The Baby Mama Virus
What is the deal with all these black women being unwed mothers? I mean, DAMN! This has been an issue bugging me ever since my adolescence. Young women getting pregnant by the wrong type of guys. Chuck it up as inexperience and poor decision making if you want too. If we were referring to the first offense, then maybe I could understand. True, no one’s perfect. We all make mistakes. But when a woman has 3 or 4 kids before the age of 25. The oldest being 10. I would hardly call it misjudgment. What it is is ignorance.
The men who impregnate these women and leave them to fend for themselves are cowards. They are assholes. And by no means am I giving them a pass. I don’t care at what age these men conceive children. Whether your 16, 26 or 36, you are a BOY if you aren’t man enough to take care of your responsibilities. When I was younger, there was a guy in my neighborhood who had fathered FIVE children by age 21. A high school drop-out, drug dealer, and gang member. Here you have an uneducated and unemployed young black male. What in the hell was these young girls thinking? Once again, I have to go back to the notion of women being impulsive. He was a handsome dude. He had the gift of gab and he was well received by the ladies. They believed the game he was running. But instead of abstaining from sex or using birth control, they opted to go raw dog. The dog bit them in the ass. What sad is his irresponsibility has not just damaged one child, but five. Good luck getting child support from HIS ass.
Black folk have much too much religion. What I mean by that is a large majority of black people claim to be devout Christians, but I feel lack a deeper understanding of the concepts. They are quick to recite surface rhetoric. I am not impressed if you can rattle off a bible quote here and there. Generations of having your ass in church every Sunday, listening to fake ass “pimp preachers”, and tithing money that you can’t afford to give, has not been beneficial for the black community. I am not a religious person, nor am I a Christian. Even referring to me as spiritual would be a stretch. I prefer to make sound decision based on rationale and common sense. Keeping these babies IS NOT common sense if you truly can’t afford it. These women are dooming themselves to a life of struggle and strife. I’m not saying those tough odds can’t be over come, but why put yourself through the hardship. The “I made my bed, and I’m gonna lay in it” mentality is honorable. But if there is another solution, why not take it? These women get pregnant in their teens and early twenties and choose to KEEP the babies. Even in instances when the boy is not around or is refusing to paternity. Abortion is such a taboo thought in the black community. The religious damnation attached too it often keeps these sisters from even giving abortion serious consideration. Maybe it’s that mother-child connection that, being a man, I can never understand. It’s a hard decision to have to make. Yet, if these women don’t want to have to make THAT hard decision, they better start making the easier ones first. Like, leaving these sorry ass men ALONE. Don’t drink the kool-aid. I would rather have a higher abortion rate in the black community than the slippery slope of problems that arise from teenage/young adult pregnancy. Have the abortion now. Learn from your mistake. And have a kid when you’re ready, with a husband in your life. I don’t see how this is difficult to comprehend. Common sense gets clouded by religion.
The ignorance is being passed down from generation to generation. Nothing can be done to change the past. I understand that. But, as I near 30, I realize you have an entire generation of young ladies on the verge of that same horizon. Their 30 year old mothers’ had THEM at 15. And with not stable and positive male image in the household, the scenario is set for history to repeat itself and further send black people down a path of destruction. Some men DO step to the plate, take care of their kids, even when they don’t wed the mother. This is admirable. Yet, we end up with these VERY complicated family units. Calling them “Non-traditional” is an understatement. Yet, some women feel they can do better alone. As Fantasia says, “Now-a-days it’s a badge of honor, to be a baby mama”. Badge of idiocy is more like it.
Fantasia- Baby Mama
What is the deal with all these black women being unwed mothers? I mean, DAMN! This has been an issue bugging me ever since my adolescence. Young women getting pregnant by the wrong type of guys. Chuck it up as inexperience and poor decision making if you want too. If we were referring to the first offense, then maybe I could understand. True, no one’s perfect. We all make mistakes. But when a woman has 3 or 4 kids before the age of 25. The oldest being 10. I would hardly call it misjudgment. What it is is ignorance.
The men who impregnate these women and leave them to fend for themselves are cowards. They are assholes. And by no means am I giving them a pass. I don’t care at what age these men conceive children. Whether your 16, 26 or 36, you are a BOY if you aren’t man enough to take care of your responsibilities. When I was younger, there was a guy in my neighborhood who had fathered FIVE children by age 21. A high school drop-out, drug dealer, and gang member. Here you have an uneducated and unemployed young black male. What in the hell was these young girls thinking? Once again, I have to go back to the notion of women being impulsive. He was a handsome dude. He had the gift of gab and he was well received by the ladies. They believed the game he was running. But instead of abstaining from sex or using birth control, they opted to go raw dog. The dog bit them in the ass. What sad is his irresponsibility has not just damaged one child, but five. Good luck getting child support from HIS ass.
Black folk have much too much religion. What I mean by that is a large majority of black people claim to be devout Christians, but I feel lack a deeper understanding of the concepts. They are quick to recite surface rhetoric. I am not impressed if you can rattle off a bible quote here and there. Generations of having your ass in church every Sunday, listening to fake ass “pimp preachers”, and tithing money that you can’t afford to give, has not been beneficial for the black community. I am not a religious person, nor am I a Christian. Even referring to me as spiritual would be a stretch. I prefer to make sound decision based on rationale and common sense. Keeping these babies IS NOT common sense if you truly can’t afford it. These women are dooming themselves to a life of struggle and strife. I’m not saying those tough odds can’t be over come, but why put yourself through the hardship. The “I made my bed, and I’m gonna lay in it” mentality is honorable. But if there is another solution, why not take it? These women get pregnant in their teens and early twenties and choose to KEEP the babies. Even in instances when the boy is not around or is refusing to paternity. Abortion is such a taboo thought in the black community. The religious damnation attached too it often keeps these sisters from even giving abortion serious consideration. Maybe it’s that mother-child connection that, being a man, I can never understand. It’s a hard decision to have to make. Yet, if these women don’t want to have to make THAT hard decision, they better start making the easier ones first. Like, leaving these sorry ass men ALONE. Don’t drink the kool-aid. I would rather have a higher abortion rate in the black community than the slippery slope of problems that arise from teenage/young adult pregnancy. Have the abortion now. Learn from your mistake. And have a kid when you’re ready, with a husband in your life. I don’t see how this is difficult to comprehend. Common sense gets clouded by religion.
The ignorance is being passed down from generation to generation. Nothing can be done to change the past. I understand that. But, as I near 30, I realize you have an entire generation of young ladies on the verge of that same horizon. Their 30 year old mothers’ had THEM at 15. And with not stable and positive male image in the household, the scenario is set for history to repeat itself and further send black people down a path of destruction. Some men DO step to the plate, take care of their kids, even when they don’t wed the mother. This is admirable. Yet, we end up with these VERY complicated family units. Calling them “Non-traditional” is an understatement. Yet, some women feel they can do better alone. As Fantasia says, “Now-a-days it’s a badge of honor, to be a baby mama”. Badge of idiocy is more like it.
Fantasia- Baby Mama
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