# 7 The Instant Daddy Syndrome
#7 The Instant Daddy Syndrome
That name of that beautiful work of art is “MBrace Fatherhood” by Larry Poncho Brown. Fatherhood has always been a concept that I have had trouble embracing. I look forward to one day becoming a father. But It has to be when I am ready. When the time is right. Once I am in a position to give that child the attention and guidance it deserves. When I see these baby mamas rearing children with no father around, it’s revolting. I feel the need to vent a little bit more on this subject.
When I was in my teens & early twenties, I was appalled by the number of women in my peer group who were single mothers. Deep down inside, for some dumb reason, I kept thinking that I as matured the situation would change. But it didn’t. Those chicks with kids, the boat had already sailed away for them. Bon Voyage. You’re out of the contest and no longer on my radar. As the old saying goes, NEXT.
There’s other fish in the sea, right? I guess I was betting on these women maturing, as I matured. I thought the law of averages was on my side. That somehow a continuously declining rate in baby mamas meant a higher potential for me to meet a woman that I could form a strong relationship with. Yet, as I got older, I discovered that the baby mama rate didn’t decrease at all. It fuckin’ increased!! Some were teenage mother’s that got older. Some were divorced/separated single mothers. They had the kids with a guy that they thought would be there for them, but for whatever reason, things didn’t work out as planned. At any rate, for me, it seemed like every woman I approached had kids. Primarily black women with kids!! I know that there are single mothers of other races. It just seems like there is a higher number of black baby mamas! I’m just calling it, how I see it.
I have a rule: I don’t date women with kids. PERIOD. I’ve been told by my male friends that I need to change my stance. Miss right might come in the form a woman with a child. They site my good nature. My friendly disposition. They say, “you would make a great dad!”. And what these kids need is great father figure. --- FUCK! Here we go again. Back to that “my brother’s keeper shit”. Back to that ‘it takes a fucking village to raise a child”. Fuck those bastards! I didn’t have them. I shouldn’t have to raise them. I have been responsible enough in my life to prevent unwanted pregnancies with the women I’ve dated. These mothers could’ve done the same. They should’ve been more selective in who they spread their legs for. Now, I have to step in and play father for a child that isn’t mine? I don’t think so. I won’t be an instant daddy.
I say women should have a rule: Don’t fuck any man that you don’t think will make a good father. That’s the rule I have in regards to women. I can’t see myself splitting custody of my child with a woman that I can’t stand the sight of. It’s so unhealthy. Unfortunately it’s become the norm in the black community. Women have these children with men that turn out to be so unconstructive that they end up despising them. The women develop attitudes of “super-independence”. They say they don’t need a father. They can do it all. We’ll you can surely try. But it’s tremendously hard. That stress ends up manifesting as regret, bitterness and low self esteem. Now what man is going to want to deal with a woman like that? Not I.
Having a kid doesn’t necessarily hurt a woman’s beauty. Shit, it usually makes a woman’s body fill out. I know plenty of MILFs (Mom’s I’d Love to Fuck). I’m conflicted. Because part of me (the horny dog part) would just like to say, fuck it. Get mines. But my conscience side wins out. I’m not the type of guy to just have a fuck buddy situation with a woman. I would want something more meaningful. Therein lies the problem. If you date a woman with kids, you have to take it all. You just can’t date the woman and ignore the kids. Especially younger kids. If you are around enough, they will eventually become attached to you. Or worse, you become attached to the kids. That would be the case with me. I may seem like a grump, but I do like kids. I want to see them learn and succeed. I want them to have fun and enjoy this carefree time of their lives. I would end up WANTING to be a father to those kids and I can’t let myself get into a situation like that. It’s not being selfish either. It’s being fair too myself. These women don’t deserve a man like me. When I finally become a father, it will be with a woman I love. It will be in a meaningful relationship. TOGETHER, we will raise that child.
That name of that beautiful work of art is “MBrace Fatherhood” by Larry Poncho Brown. Fatherhood has always been a concept that I have had trouble embracing. I look forward to one day becoming a father. But It has to be when I am ready. When the time is right. Once I am in a position to give that child the attention and guidance it deserves. When I see these baby mamas rearing children with no father around, it’s revolting. I feel the need to vent a little bit more on this subject.
When I was in my teens & early twenties, I was appalled by the number of women in my peer group who were single mothers. Deep down inside, for some dumb reason, I kept thinking that I as matured the situation would change. But it didn’t. Those chicks with kids, the boat had already sailed away for them. Bon Voyage. You’re out of the contest and no longer on my radar. As the old saying goes, NEXT.
There’s other fish in the sea, right? I guess I was betting on these women maturing, as I matured. I thought the law of averages was on my side. That somehow a continuously declining rate in baby mamas meant a higher potential for me to meet a woman that I could form a strong relationship with. Yet, as I got older, I discovered that the baby mama rate didn’t decrease at all. It fuckin’ increased!! Some were teenage mother’s that got older. Some were divorced/separated single mothers. They had the kids with a guy that they thought would be there for them, but for whatever reason, things didn’t work out as planned. At any rate, for me, it seemed like every woman I approached had kids. Primarily black women with kids!! I know that there are single mothers of other races. It just seems like there is a higher number of black baby mamas! I’m just calling it, how I see it.
I have a rule: I don’t date women with kids. PERIOD. I’ve been told by my male friends that I need to change my stance. Miss right might come in the form a woman with a child. They site my good nature. My friendly disposition. They say, “you would make a great dad!”. And what these kids need is great father figure. --- FUCK! Here we go again. Back to that “my brother’s keeper shit”. Back to that ‘it takes a fucking village to raise a child”. Fuck those bastards! I didn’t have them. I shouldn’t have to raise them. I have been responsible enough in my life to prevent unwanted pregnancies with the women I’ve dated. These mothers could’ve done the same. They should’ve been more selective in who they spread their legs for. Now, I have to step in and play father for a child that isn’t mine? I don’t think so. I won’t be an instant daddy.
I say women should have a rule: Don’t fuck any man that you don’t think will make a good father. That’s the rule I have in regards to women. I can’t see myself splitting custody of my child with a woman that I can’t stand the sight of. It’s so unhealthy. Unfortunately it’s become the norm in the black community. Women have these children with men that turn out to be so unconstructive that they end up despising them. The women develop attitudes of “super-independence”. They say they don’t need a father. They can do it all. We’ll you can surely try. But it’s tremendously hard. That stress ends up manifesting as regret, bitterness and low self esteem. Now what man is going to want to deal with a woman like that? Not I.
Having a kid doesn’t necessarily hurt a woman’s beauty. Shit, it usually makes a woman’s body fill out. I know plenty of MILFs (Mom’s I’d Love to Fuck). I’m conflicted. Because part of me (the horny dog part) would just like to say, fuck it. Get mines. But my conscience side wins out. I’m not the type of guy to just have a fuck buddy situation with a woman. I would want something more meaningful. Therein lies the problem. If you date a woman with kids, you have to take it all. You just can’t date the woman and ignore the kids. Especially younger kids. If you are around enough, they will eventually become attached to you. Or worse, you become attached to the kids. That would be the case with me. I may seem like a grump, but I do like kids. I want to see them learn and succeed. I want them to have fun and enjoy this carefree time of their lives. I would end up WANTING to be a father to those kids and I can’t let myself get into a situation like that. It’s not being selfish either. It’s being fair too myself. These women don’t deserve a man like me. When I finally become a father, it will be with a woman I love. It will be in a meaningful relationship. TOGETHER, we will raise that child.
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